Today I am going to tell you the story of Maya. Maya is a girl aged 27 and works for a multinational company. She lives a life like most people of her age, goes to the office, works hard, comes back home and plans for the next day. She is an outgoing person but still prefer her own space. What makes Maya different from other people is that she avoids crowds. Maya feels that she doesn’t fit in with other people. She doesn’t want to be alone but she rather wants to enjoy her solitude. Maya sees the world in a different and unique way. She thought that there might be some problem with her as she finds it very hard to mingle with people although she is very emotionally connected to people and always helping and polite in nature. She decided to take a session with a therapist and after many years and many sessions, she realised that she is one of the highly sensitive people or empaths.
Who is an empath?
The term empath is derived from the word empathy which is the ability to understand the experience and feelings of others outside of one’s own perspective
An empath is a person who is very sensitive to the feelings and emotions of others. Their ability to perceive what others are feeling extends beyond empathy (defined merely as the ability to understand another person’s feelings) to really taking on those feelings; feeling what another person is feeling on a deep emotional level.
Signs you are an empath.
You have a great deal of empathy.
Let’s say a relative recently lost their 15-year-old dog. Even if you’ve never lost a pet or even never had a pet, empathy is what allows you to fathom the kind of suffering your relative going through.
However, as an empath, you go a step farther. Emotions are sensed and felt as if they were a part of your own experience. In other words, someone else’s suffering and joy become your suffering and joy.
You find solace in nature.
Spending time in natural environments can be beneficial to anyone. Natural places provide a calming location to recuperate from overwhelming sensations, sounds, and emotions, therefore empaths maybe even more drawn to nature and secluded areas.
When you’re alone in a sunlit forest or watching waves smash against the shore, you might feel fully at ease. Even a simple stroll through a garden or an hour spent sitting beneath the shade of trees can improve your spirits, calm your nerves, and help you relax. This is the reason why empaths love their solitude.
You are not comfortable in crowded places
Empaths can absorb both positive and negative energy just by being in the company of another person or group. This sensitivity may seem amplified to the point of becoming practically unpleasant in crowded or bustling situations.
Empaths might easily become overwhelmed as a result of their increased sensitivity to everything.” If you’re easily affected by other people’s emotions, you’ll have a hard time dealing with the emotional “noise” from a crowd, or even a small group of people, for a prolonged amount of time.
You may become overwhelmed or physically ill if you pick up on negative emotions, energy, or even bodily distress from those around you.
People are more likely to share their pain and problems with you.
People that are sensitive and empathic are excellent listeners. Your loved ones may be calmed by your presence and turn to you first when they are in distress.
Caring passionately can make it difficult to communicate when you’ve reached a point of overwhelming. However, striking a balance is critical. Unchecked compassion and sensitivity can lead to “feeling dumps” that are too much for you to take at once if you don’t set boundaries.
Empaths are more susceptible to manipulation and harmful behaviour. Your sincere desire to assist those in need may cause you to miss indicators of toxicity.
You might have a better grasp of the anguish that’s driving their actions and wish to help. However, keep in mind that you can’t do much for someone who isn’t ready to change.
You’re extremely sensitive to sounds, smells, and sensations.
The greater sensitivity of an empath isn’t limited to emotions. Empaths and extremely sensitive people have a lot in common, and you could find that you’re more sensitive to the environment around you as well.
This could indicate:
- You are more sensitive to scents and fragrances.
- Affected by jarring sounds and physical sensations.
- Prefer to consume information by reading or listening to media at modest volumes.
- Certain noises have the potential to elicit an emotional response.
You don’t want to be part of any dispute or conflict
When you’re more sensitive, it’s easier for someone to hurt your feelings. Even innocuous statements might sting, and you may take criticism more personally.
Arguments and disagreements can add to your distress because you’re dealing with more than just your own feelings and reactions. You’re also taking in the feelings of those around you. Even little arguments might become more difficult to deal with when you want to alleviate everyone’s pain but don’t know how.
You have a distinct perspective of the world.
Your intuition may be fueled by a deeper emotional awareness, and you may notice things that others miss or draw connections that aren’t obvious to others.
However, having a stronger link to the rest of the world can have drawbacks. Environments that don’t allow you to express yourself emotionally can stifle your creativity and sensitivity.
You often feel that you don’t belong to this world.
Many empaths struggle to relate to others despite their acute awareness of others’ feelings.
Others may be perplexed as to why you are so easily weary and stressed. You may find it difficult to comprehend the emotions and experiences you experience, or you may believe you aren’t “normal.” You may become more private as a result of this. To feel less out of place, you can avoid discussing your sensitivity and expressing your intuitions.
You are clairsentient.
Out of the four ‘clairs’ of intuition, clairsentience is the most common one, with signals arriving in the form of feelings. They are highly powerful in feeling it sensing the psychic channel.
You are a different kind of “clair.”
While clairsentience is the most usual type of intuition for an empath to imbibe, it is unheard of for them to feel other clairs, such as as clairaudience (messages that come through as words, almost like talking), clairvoyance (signal or messages that come in the form of mental images), or claircognizance (when signals or messages come as instantaneous insight or “downloads”).
Simple Ways to recharge yourself if you are a highly sensitive person or empath
The most basic tip is that you should always take a ‘me’ time for yourself every day. Sit in a calm and peaceful place and connect with yourself. You can also meditate for 10-15 minutes. You can also create rituals for yourself depending on what sort of elements you connect with more. For, example there are people who connect with fire. These people can do rituals associated with fire like they can do Hawans, they can sit amidst candles. There are people who connect with the wind element, they can do pranayama or simply can enjoy breathing fresh air in a calm and serene place. Below are few ways you can use to recharge yourself.
HIGHLY SENSITIVE PEOPLE OR EMPATH RECHARGING TIP 1: Sea Salt Water
A warm bath with handfuls of normal sea salt is a safe and effective way to cleanse and rejuvenate the empathic energy field. Soak for at least 30 minutes by candlelight, and before entering taking bath, offer a quick blessing over the water. Also, keep a plentiful supply of drinking water on hand, Close your eyes, direct your palms towards the water and say “Divine presence, thanks for filling this water with energies of healing, compassion and purity.
HIGHLY SENSITIVE PEOPLE OR EMPATHS RECHARGING TIP 2: Recharge with fire
Fire is one of the essential elements of our world. It is a form of energy that clean us. You can recharge yourself by doing Hawans. Sit outside in a calm place, lit an altar and pay homage to fire. You can add ghee, fragrant woods to the fire. This ritual is quite calming and peaceful.
HIGHLY SENSITIVE PEOPLE OR EMPATHS RECHARGING TIP 3: Feel The Wind
If you connect with the wind element or enjoy cool and calming breezes soothing your body you can do pranayams or breathing exercises. Also, you can enjoy munching over fresh air in a lush green forest or an orchard.
HIGHLY SENSITIVE PEOPLE OR EMPATHS RECHARGING TIP 3: Soil
Have you ever smelled the smell of soil after the first rain? If you like this you might connect more with soil or earth. If you are such a person you should often recharge yourself by playing with wet soil. You can start gardening or simply you can take walk on the soil surface every morning barefoot.
HIGHLY SENSITIVE PEOPLE OR EMPATHS RECHARGING TIP 4: Crystals
Being an empath you might have sensed that crystals are like small energy cells. As a result, carrying, wearing, or sleeping near a crystal can aid in the restoration and recalibration of your energy field, especially if you choose a crystal that feels particularly soothing and balancing to you. Tourmaline, aventurine, spirit quartz, amethyst, rose quartz, kunzite, fluorite, and clear quartz are just a few examples of crystals that could be used for this purpose. (Remember to cleanse your crystals with sea salt, sunlight, sage smoke, or running water on a regular basis.)
HIGHLY SENSITIVE PEOPLE OR EMPATHS RECHARGING TIP 5: Smudging Your Space
Smudging is an old ritual or ritual in which a person or space is cleansed by burning dry sage or other dried plants. Simply fire a little corner of sage, sandalwood, mugwort, or other dried herbs in your hand and blow it out. It’s best to keep it in a holder of some sort so that the ash doesn’t fall out.
HIGHLY SENSITIVE PEOPLE OR EMPATHS RECHARGING TIP 6: Cord-cutting
Have you ever observed that whenever you’ve begun to move on from a relationship that no longer serves you, that person calls or contacts you?
We all have negative baggage from previous relationships and experiences that are dragging us down and hindering us from going forward. One approach to let them go is to imagine your cables retracting back into your body, and with each cord, you gradually reclaim your power.
Visually cutting the links linked with negativity is another strategy. Make the gesture of cutting the cords with your hands in the shape of scissors if you’re a visual person.